Forget the problem of dating. Later-in-life friends: how does one find them?
In midlife we must face the fact that we are no longer good friend material.
You are busy, unreliable, stressed. You are dealing with the repercussions of having chosen to have children or to not have children; the repercussions of having chosen to work obsessively or not work obsessively.
You spend your money in repulsively responsible ways. You are no longer blissfully naive but neither are you wise.
You have time, but only between the hours of 8 and 9.15pm on a Tuesday, granted that other thing doesn’t happen. Does anyone else have time then? Or more importantly, are we actually too tired and would prefer to stay in instead?
Flexibility. Forgiveness. Persistence. These are the tenets of a later-in-life friendship.
In fact, one might pressure test the strength of the midlife relationship by its ability to withstand one all-important question: do you mind if we postpone?
Later-in-Life Friends
Forget the problem of dating. Later-in-life friends: how does one find them?
Aplós Arise
2 oz
Mint leaves
6
Simple syrup, Agave nectar, or Honey syrup
1/2 oz
Lime juice
1 oz
Pineapple juice
2 oz
Add the mint and syrup in a shaker. Gently muddle, infusing the mint into the syrup using a wooden spoon if you don’t have a muddler. Add the remaining ingredients and 2 cracked ice cubes. “Whipshake” the cocktail until the cubes are mostly dissolved, then roll mix into a highball glass. Top with ice*, garnish, and enjoy.
*For extra texture, use or make crushed ice to top the cocktail. Using a muddler, rolling pin or mallet, place ice in a kitchen towel and hit the ice to crush.
Recipe crafted by Lynnette Marrero
Photography by Sarah Forgie
Set by Poppy Buntz
Words by Sophie Isherwood